Hi, I (30M) have been dating my girlfriend (29F) for almost two years now. When we started dating, she was maybe 10ish lbs overweight. It wasn’t an issue for me because I don’t have crazy high standards and I found her attractive. Fast forward, she’s now 30-40 lbs overweight and I’ve lost virtually all my sexual attraction to her.

She worked out regularly before dating me but stopped completely after we met. She has, in my opinion, a very unhealthy relationship with food. It is her life. She scrolls DoorDash when she’s bored just to look at pics of food. She says it makes her giddy. At restaurants she’ll often order an appetizer or two, an entree, a side and a dessert, with a sprite. She often eats a big dinner, then has a second one at around 9pm. One time we were in bed and had already said goodnight, and I was drifting off to sleep and I hear her go “Mmmmm… cheeseburgers.”

Her figure has completely changed. Without noticing until recently, I’ve been a lot less handsy with her. I just don’t find her physically attractive anymore and she doesn’t turn me on. Idk how to accept the idea that I’m going to be with someone I don’t find attractive for the rest of my life.

She has no intention of losing the weight. She says she’s comfortable with her body, and that love shouldn’t depend on looks. Ok, but like I still try to be attractive for her. I wear clothes she likes, do my hair the way she likes it, and lost 50 lbs when I was also overweight.

I know the weight is here to stay. Am I overreacting in not finding her attractive? I can’t help it, I just don’t. And I always expected to be attracted to my wife, whoever she ends up being. She’s making me feel like a jerk for wanting to find my partner at least somewhat physically attractive. AIO?

I found what i believe to be a female voice actor on Fiverr. They have fairly cheap prices and the reviews are still up for debate on if they are fake. But if it IS voiceovers made by AI, I really wouldn't mind if Steam allows it. I tried looking at their policy on it, but idk if they walked back on the AI ban fully or parts of it?

Honestly, the world has enough people. If anything, we should be taxing people for having kids, not giving them tax breaks. Having kids should be seen as a luxury, not a default. The planet is overpopulated, resources are being depleted, and what do people do? Keep bringing more humans into the mix. If you want to have a child, pay a significant fee to society for the extra burden you’re creating. More strain on healthcare, education, infrastructure, and the environment. We tax people for things that impact society, so why is overpopulating the planet not one of them?

I just found this video of NewJeans performing at TMA, and I am so impressed with their dance breaks. They are all so good at dancing. I feel like NewJeans were always good dancers, but they are just on another level since Get Up era and I am so proud of them. Their stage presence has improved too and their vocals also sound really good (though they are likely edited)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y41JybAaLU

Hello there r/DnD, I come to you all with a problem I don't know how to approach or make peace with, and I'm curious if anyone else has had similar experiences and how they have overcome them.

Long story short; I'm getting old, and according to many people within the hobby, too old for the majority of online tables.

I have played and enjoyed Dungeons and Dragons since 2016 in a variety of tables, groups, worlds, and settings, and that's not getting into the variety of OTHER tabletop games and systems.

Over those years I developed a passion for the game and medium as a whole. I have been a gamemaster, worldbuilder, and player. I've drawn battlemaps, I've written short stories for my tables, I've painted miniatures. I absolutely love this hobby and the myriad of people I have met through it, and have a treasure trove of memories, both good and bad.

But as I celebrate my 31st birthday, I have been facing a problem that is completely new to me; criticism and discrimination against my age.

Like many people, I used to have a wonderful in-person group that would meet regularly. People from college classes, coworkers, etc. But as we get older and life takes on different complexions, schedules change, people move away, relationships begin and end and begin again. Such is life, after all!

Despite me still being very close with many of these people, I have had to move to the online sphere to find a group that fits my own schedule so I can continue enjoying the hobby I am so passionate about.

Unfortunately, I have received a lot of unexpected ridicule when it comes to my age, ranging from more lukewarm dismissals of "You're too old" all the way up to accusations that are much more hurtful and inappropriate in their language.

I want to clarify that I, by no means, feel entitled to a spot at anyone's table for any particular reason. My hurt and frustration more stems from the insults and prejudice I have had to endure simply for trying to connect with others in this hobby because of my age.

I have seen individuals cite people like Matt Mercer, Brennan Lee Mulligan, and Matt Colville (all men well into their 30's and 40's) as their inspirations and introduction to the hobby, only for those same individuals to mock me for putting in an application to their table.

While I try to respect people's concerns and worldviews, the frequency and harshness of some of these dismissals is slowly starting to push me out of the hobby by the scores of 20-somethings who now make up it's playerbase and seem to enjoy branding anyone even slightly older than them as a " potential creep."

I was introduced to this hobby years ago by a man who was 10 years my senior, and the lessons he taught me have been invaluable on my journeys throughout this hobby.

Ultimately, I just want to continue to enjoy and love this hobby to the best of my ability, but I feel like I am being shown the door to the retirement home and told to hang up my adventuring boots.

Any advice or sharing of similar experiences would help, because I really don't want to give up on something that has been such a wonderful part of my life.

(please read the edit before commenting, I made a mistake)

Cat people say cats are better then dogs, and dog people say dogs are better then cats, but I personally think dogs and cats are equal, and I've known my cat for around 7 years, meaning I've grown a big bond with her, but I've known our family dog for only about 2 years, but I still love him just as much as my cat, in some regards cats have the advantage over dogs and in others dogs have the advantage over cats, but I think they are the exact same, love them both.

EDIT: I didn't mean cats and dogs are the same as in you should treat them the same, I meant you should love them the same and they are equal in terms of compassion and companionship, sorry to anyone who would've saw this as wrong due to my incorrect wording.

Edit 2: this is actually my most commented on post, even excluding the comments I posted, so thanks guys for wasting your time to view my opinion :D

Sharing or leaking Only Fans content violates consent. It is a form of sexual harassment (even sexual assault in some cases). It's not okay just because you don't like the person it is affecting. Your feelings toward Janelle are subjective, but consent is not subjective.

When a person posts to paid subscription channels (OF, but also Patreon and others), consent is only given to those approved parties. If you view this content through a leak, you're outside that consent group.

As humans, we have autonomy. The alternative is bleak and very handmaid's tale. If you're someone who values yourself and others, you can and should make a fully conscious effort to abide by the standard that you will not violate the consent of others.

Please consider when "the fappening" happened. Celebs nudes were leaked. Jennifer Lawrence made a statement that the leakers weren't the only ones who violated her. Every single person who looks at her photos violates her, too.

Releasing and viewing sexual content outside of the consent that's been given is an act of sexual harassment (at minimum). You don't want it to happen to you. The Golden rule is to do unto others, and it applies here. This is an all or nothing scenario. You either value consent or you don't. You can't cherry-pick on this issue and remain a good person.

That being said, we all learn this stuff at different stages in our lives. Rather than get defensive over your choice to view it, I ask you to rethink these decisions for the future.

ETA - SEXUAL HARASSMENT is the words I used, so ya'll can stop lying in the comments.

Explanation:

Leaking and viewing Janelle's content is stealing with the added elements of it being "sexual/explicit" content, and it's massively shared with others. When you steal a loaf of bread, all your neighbors don't have a slice. That's the harassment. Harassment has to be sustained/ongoing and cause harm. Sexual because they are explicit content, harassment because it is widespread, life altering, and unavoidable. Harassment because it also causes financial hardship. Sexual harassment. That's what it is.

ETA: I'm going to ask you to read my section about "the fappening" a couple of times before you come at me that I'm comparing. It's not a comparison. I'm very clearly stating that JLaw felt that every person who viewed the photos violated her, too. The whole point of my post is that viewing and disseminating links to this content violates consent and has hurtful consequences, which JLaw has stated that the viewership of it hurt her. None of my language expresses that it's a comparison.

This was in San Francisco on the way to my doctor. I was just stopped at this light and this jerk folded my mirror back. Fortunately I was able to get it back into position by folding the mirrors then restoring my mirror settings. Sorry for not getting the actual footage of the USB but this is what I have access to right now.

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It's just annoying seeing yall spamm low qaulity photos. it's not at all hard to take a screen shot.

Edit becuase I keep being mocked, if yall want to ban grammer errors, we should do it later. Fixing Grammer can also be done by muliptle people, while Op is the only one who can post said photo.

Edit 2 do yall understand bait?

Gamestop

https://x.com/itswooch/status/1832100772122636748?t=TqRpDAwMJRmT9y-EhEQbTg&s=19

I agree.

I (45m) have been married to my wife, for the sake of privacy we will call her Barb (38f) for 8 years. We have 3 children (7M), (5F), and (3M). Me and my wife and our kids are currently vacationing in Germany as we are doing our annual visit to my parents and the rest of my family. We arrived for our seven night stay on the 3rd and will depart on the 10th. Me and family have had a wonderful time so far doing some sight seeing and driving around as well other very fun activities. but things got a little hectic earlier after my wife made a joke infront of the family when we were eating dinner and watching television last evening. We were watching a movie and the woman in the movie was being abused by her husband and my wife said "I'd certainly divorce (my name) if he ever layed a hand on me". My family laughed and agreed with her, however I was bitter. She was basically hinting that I abuse her or that i would abusue her. I also felt like she was being extremely disrespectful by making a joke about abuse when actual people go through it and I was very disgusted by her "joke".

After she said her joke I gasped and told her she was a horrible person and put my plate down and got up, took the keys and got in our rental car and drove off. I had driven for a good 15 minutes and then drove back home to clear my mind. My wife and family kept spamming my phone but I ignored them. When I came home my wife was saying I was overreacting and it was "just a small joke" but I told her to leave me alone and gave her the silent treatment. I'm thinking about divorcing her and leaving. My family is seperated on this, my mom and dad agree but my 2 out of my 4 siblings think my wife is right. I just can't stand the joke that she made which was highly inappropriate and my family probably think I abuse her. She has probabally told her family about her "joke" also which they probably think I abuse her also. I think I'm right and that her implying I abuse her through that joke was innapropriate. I've currently put on a poker face for the sake of the children but beyond that I can't talk to my wife. AITA for seperating from my wife aftert her idea of a joke?

Edit 1: Just to clarify I am NOT an abusive husband. I just think it was an inappropriate joke to make, especially in front of the children question what abuse is and possibly even misinterpreted my wife's joke. They may even go to school saying that their father is abusive and I refuse to have that be a risk.

Edit 2: Everyone saying I am a man child doesn't know the full story. My wife literally made a joke about me abusing her. How would you feel if your spouse mentioned you abusing them. She even did it In front of our young kids who will now possibly think their father is an abuser. They might even go on to hurt kids at their school. I am not an abusive husband but my wife's comment was indeed inappropriate and I genuinely think I might divorce her because wtf is wrojng with her. So insensitive.

Edit 3: My wife was just now trying to get me to unlock my room door and I told her to get lost. AITA?

Edit 4: everyone stating I am a bad husband doesnt know what their talking about my wife would be nothing without i make more money then her

Edit 5: Since you all are worried about my fucking wife so much how about you try spending the day with the bitch for once. Her name is Mary-Joan, at this point she doesnt deserve a fake name

Edit 6: I am tempted to leave her in Germany and head back to the states by myself for some me-time only and she and the kids can stay with my family which I think is fair

Edit 7: my wife keeps trying to talk to me and open my door, did i overreact by calling her a bitch and telling her to leave my door alone before i force her to, i think its justified cause she keeps harassing me

Edit 8: my oldest keeps begging me to come out my room but I keep telling him daddy isnt ready and to go, he started crying and i feel bad but i dont wanna accidentally interact with my wife, he will be fine i taught him never to cry

Edit 9: So we had a meal together me and the whole family and my wife was really silent and my family noticed and I asked here what the fuck her problem was and why she was being silent and not acknowledging people and she said she just felt a little sad and i told her if she kept being disrespectful i would fix it and she started talking a little more which is good how selfish do you have to be to not talk with your family in law so fucking stupid

Edit 10: if it makes you all happy ill keep the marriage going and not let her leave then for the "sake" of my kids they will probably fallow in their dumb mothers footsteps also

I returned recently after a few years overseas and I feel like I've come back to an angry, selfish population who are too busy yelling at each other to fix problems that require community attention. In Sydney, I encountered way more road rage, passive aggressive comments on the street etc (I'm white and grew up here, before you make it a race thing).

The racism is off the charts towards international students, most of whom I meet in uni were broke themselves living in 6 or 7 bedroom houses in glebe. Hardly "stealing our houses".

It seems like the inevitable course of events I predicted in uni occurred. The boomers bought all the houses (it's literally like the game monopoly - they had the first go round the board). Now they're blaming foreigners as a scapegoat when literally every boomer I know has more than one house, even the ones who had low income jobs in the 70s.

The traditional lifestyle is now unaffordable. Marriage, kids, houses. But instead off reevaluating those things people have double downed. Many people I know moved 2 or 3 hours away from the city rather than just seeking other meaning in life.

The creatives have totally fled Sydney, leaving a weird corporate wasteland of non culture. Finally, many people seem to have untreated ptsd from covid. They keep harping on about it. It was years ago. The world has moved on.

The solution to all of this is less individualism and more community. We need greater connection, more intercultural events, more empathy. Not more road rage and selfishness.