I'm moderately well versed in many topics but being an introvert and having never actually talked much I find my communication lacking, I wish to be more articulate. I've read of an emperor who used to practise all his lines which gave me the idea to make such a list of common phrases for myself but I still struggle with random conversation. Any books on this would be appreciated, I prefer older books or classics than modern books.

Looking for a good book suggestion for starting over from broke at 40-ish years old (turning 40 this year) and feel like I've been stuck in a rut for the last year or so. Any suggestions?

My mental health isn't great, but it's not bad. I'm employed, married, no debt other than a mortgage. Just trying to get my mojo (motivation) back after trying to start a business over the last few years, failing hard, and losing all of my life savings & retirement (~$500k). I've had a decent job for the last year or so and everything is going good there, just not sure how to get my edge back.

I've read Extreme Ownership. Any suggestions other than that one are appreciated! LOL!

Helpppp! Phew

The "3 secret rules" are actually helpful, but could be explained in a short article or blog post. This feels like a freshman psychology student was given the task of writing a fictional story around these three super secret tools for success as a manager, they threw it into chatGPT, and this is the crap it spit out.

It was just so on the nose it was painful and cringy. I get what the author was trying to do by taking these instructions and making it easier to understand by using them in a fictional setting, but it's just so poorly done. Since this was the updated version, they used "The NEW One Minute Manager" every time and it was extremely cringeworthy.

Normally I'd roll my eyes and move on, or DNF, but this was so bad I felt I needed to warn others or see what others thoughts were. I found this recommended a lot on reddit, so I was really surprised how bad it was.

Is it more about using your existing money wisely or more about making more money?

Or maybe a bit of both?

I find it hard to tell from reading the synopsis and chapter names

Hello, I was recently reading a book (I think it was a self improvement book) where the books starts of with an example where a nurse in training sees her father at a party and instinctively says something is wrong with him. Turns out she saves him from either a heart attack or stroke. The book then goes on to talk about how people make split second decisions successfully.

It is most probably a very famous book and I want to complete it, but for the life of me I can't remember the title. Any help please?

Goggin's "Can't Hurt Me" is a book about accepting pain and hurt, but my thought is "why do these challenges in our life need to be framed in the way of a punishment, rather than a fun challenge?" Looking for something along this line.

I am looking for top three books that help you read a room, specifically social situations and social awareness.

Most say you either have it or you don’t it’s an intuitive feeling etc. for those of us who can’t what books or strategies work?

I’m social and approachable and don’t have issues connecting or listening but I can’t always understand a social situation or underlying meanings or peoples intentions and this is what I want to improve.

What books do you recommend for the covert socially inept?

Desperately need book recs that can help me with this. I am currently in zone at my work where a few (2) subordinates have been rude, out of the line and serious trouble. While I am working on a string work persona and usual work system in assigning tasks, I have a strong feeling that they are not at all taking me seriously. It started to bother me so much that I have stopped connecting with them on calls, and prefer to delegate work through emails. However, I know I am avoiding the issue and want to better myself to be heard.

These subordinates are of my age and older (both genders). I am a female.

As an introvert with social anxiety, I lack essential social skills. I have three options currently - "Captivate", "The Charisma Myth", "How to Win Friends And Influence People". Which of these should I read? Any other recommendations are welcome :)

I’m pretty good at socializing but i think i could improve on making strong and lost lasting connections.

I want to be able to have quality friends that would last years and decades

I think few books about humour, deep conversations (how to open up to people and how to know who to trust) and just anything that would maxx out my cold approaches because i need to do a lot of cold approaches for networking.

I'm a high schooler and if I could read any one of these books, or all, which should I read/read first?

Don't know why I put this off for so long.

I recently lost my grandfather too. Maybe that also inspired the experience. But man. I had a good cry.

For some reason I could only picture Wallace Shawn in my head as Professor Morrie. So cute lol. And the scenes in my head were so lovely.

I went through lots of videos and photos of Mitch, Janine and Morrie. I saw Morrie on video, narrating the 'You're part of the ocean' story! My heart <3

If you haven't, please check them out.

Good one.

Simple, nothing fancy, wholesome.

The Scout Mindset by Julia Galef argues that seeing the world more clearly helps us make better decisions. The book also offers practical tips to see the world more accurately.

You can find my full summary and thoughts on this book here.

Key Takeaways

• We’re in soldier mindset when we try to defend the views we already hold or wish are true. We’re in scout mindset when we try to suss out the actual lay of the land.
• It’s not binary—no one is entirely soldier or entirely scout. But some people are more scout-like than others.
• A common myth is that we need self-deception to cope with reality, motivate ourselves to do hard things, or persuade others to trust us. However:
  • There are other coping strategies like reframing or perspective-taking that don’t require deluding ourselves.
  • You can be motivated to take moon shots by thinking in expected value terms without overestimating your odds of success.
  • You can be socially confident and epistemically humble—and social confidence is what inspires trust.
• Overall, we probably use scout mindset less than would be optimal. We have far more choice today than in the environments humans evolved in, so accurate judgments are more valuable than ever.
• How to become more of a scout:
  • Assign probabilities to your beliefs and update incrementally. Changing your mind doesn’t have to be embarrassing and you shouldn’t have to apologise.
  • Learning from disagreements is hard; we shouldn’t expect it to be easy. But we can give ourselves a better chance of success by finding the right representatives for the other side.
  • Hold your identity lightly so it doesn’t get in the way of accurate beliefs. Better yet, identify as a scout and take pride in being able to spot errors in your own thinking.

Overall I enjoyed this book a lot. It was well-structured and very easy to read. I also liked how the author didn't oversell the benefits of scout mindset, as she doesn't claim it's the best option in 100% of cases—just that we're likely using it less than would be optimal.

Never Split The Difference - Chapter 2 - Be A Mirror - Book Club Discussions

Chapter 1 - discussion

To help the discussion get going consider commenting below on one of the following:

1. What are the 3 biggest takeaways from this chapter for you?
2. What is a specific & practical action item you are looking to implement into your own life from this?
3. What ideas challenged you the most, or which ones did you disagree with?

Let's get some healthy, respectful and sometimes robust discussions going.

Hello, does anyone have book recommendations? Starting my adulthood is really stressful I'd like to read a book that would teach me something. It can be autobiography, or something political, or about womanhood, or about career, self love, or love but with focus on feelings and being able to get out of toxic relationships (not about love interests, s3x, boys, parties etc. ) Maybe something that helps with social anxiety or making friends too Or feminist literature (not modern liberal feminism tho) Or books that just taught you anything or helped you in any way Thank you for reading my post, I'm sorry if it's chaotic

Monthly Discussion - "Never Split The Difference" by Chris Voss.

Welcome to this month's Betterment Book Club Discussion, as we work our way through "Never Split The Difference" by Chris Voss.

To help the discussion get going consider commenting below on one of the following:

1. What are the 3 biggest takeaways from Chapter 1 for you?
2. What is a specific & practical action item you are looking to implement into your own life from this?
3. What ideas challenged you the most, or which ones did you disagree with?

Let's get some healthy, respectful and sometimes robust discussions going.

How this Monthly Book Club will play out...

There are 10 chapters, and roughly 30 days this month, so we'll start a new Chapter discussion every 3 days.

Hopefully this is a balance between not flooding the sub with too many posts, whilst also making the discussion more focused about each chapter without too much overwhelm.

Caveat: This Monthly Book Club was requested by a few members, but if the engagement isn't there over the next few days...I'll pause it.

Hello!

I have no idea where else to post this but I figured this was the best place. I'm trying to look for a book that would be helpful in creating boundaries in Hispanic culture setting. Or like any setting in which family is everything and you are expected to drop everything for them. My therapist recommended I look for one but I feel very lost haha

I would like to use excerpts from a book or two for next year's student leadership training. Any recommendations? I will be reading the book before presenting any excerpts to students. Bonus points if I can get things out of it too as their director.

Hi everyone, I am very new to the world of betterment and self-help books. I am finding myself becoming progressively more pessimistic, depressive, negative, ungrateful and self-critical. Constantly achieving goals, but then immediately moving on to “whats next” and “where I am sucks”. I am caught in a loop and can clearly feel myself getting sucked into this headspace more and more. I was hoping that understanding that I have this problem would be enough to get myself out of it, but alas. I’ve tried gratitude journaling, but that’s just not doing anything for me…

Does anybody have any book recommendations to start the journey of getting out of this and changing my mindset? Thanks in advance!

Hi all,

28yo male here, currently in a career which I am not enjoying- this weekend I am going away to completely switch off and refocus on what I want to do next in a career.

Any good books/audio books or even podcasts around this subject - helping me to re-centre, focus and start looking at the next stage of my life.

Thanks,